episode 230

Having It All Isn’t Doing It All & That Might Be What’s Burning You Out | The Busy Traps That Keep Working Moms Exhausted with Courtney Cecil

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The Busy Traps That Keep Working Moms Exhausted with Courtney Cecil

If you’re a working mom who’s ever thought, Why does it feel like I’m failing at everything even though I’m doing everything? — this episode is for you.

Today’s conversation is one I wish every high-performing working mom could hear. I’m joined by Courtney Cecil, founder of Working Moms Movement, former Fortune 50 Head of Culture, and an industrial and systems engineer by training. In other words, she understands systems, efficiency, leadership — and exactly why so many working moms feel maxed out, burned out, and stuck in constant “go mode.”

This episode challenges the belief that having it all means doing it all — and unpacks why that mindset may be the very thing keeping you exhausted.


Why Working Moms Feel Burned Out Even When They’re “Doing Everything”

You’re Not Bad at Balance — You’re Operating in a System that Rewards Overworking

One of the most important truths Courtney shares is this: most working moms aren’t doing life wrong — they’re operating inside a system that rewards overgiving.

We’re praised for being available, flexible, dependable, and self-sacrificing — until it breaks us. Over time, this leads to exhaustion, resentment, and a quiet loss of identity.

Courtney calls this giving yourself away for free — pouring your time, energy, and emotional labor into work and home without boundaries or sustainability.


Courtney’s Turning Point: Burnout, Loyalty, and a Wake-Up Call

When Sacrificing Yourself Becomes A Wake-Up Call

Courtney spent 16 years in corporate leadership, ultimately serving as Chief of Staff to a CEO. She worked 80-hour weeks, pushed through illness and family strain, and believed loyalty would be rewarded.

Then she was laid off.

That moment became a defining turning point — not just in her career, but in how she views performance, boundaries, and leadership. The lesson? You can be a high performer without sacrificing yourself in the process.


The Busy Traps That Keep Working Moms Exhausted

Why “I Could Be Doing More” Is a Dangerous Thought

One of the most powerful parts of this conversation is Courtney’s breakdown of busy traps, especially for high-achieving women:

  • Overfilling your calendar because there’s “space”
  • Saying yes to projects out of guilt or fear
  • Comparing yourself to unrealistic standards (online or generational)
  • Believing rest must be earned
  • Doing tasks simply because you can, not because they matter

The result? Constant motion with very little fulfillment.


Having It All Isn’t Doing It All

Values, Tradeoffs, and Letting Go of Comparison

Courtney explains this beautifully: you can have it all — but only if you define what “all” actually means to you.

Every priority creates tradeoffs. Not everything can matter equally.

When you’re clear on your values, decisions get simpler:

  • What deserves your time?
  • What can be delegated?
  • What doesn’t actually matter — even if it looks good externally?

Trying to meet everyone else’s standards is a guaranteed path to burnout.


Outsourcing Isn’t a Luxury — It’s a Leadership Strategy

Time Is Your Most Valuable Resource

One of the most practical parts of this episode is our conversation about support systems.

Courtney reframes outsourcing as a necessity, not a luxury — especially in what she calls the squeeze: the season where careers, family needs, and financial pressure all peak at once.

She shares why tools like a house manager can actually reduce mental load more effectively than traditional help — because they remove the constant day-to-day friction, not just occasional tasks.

The takeaway: protect your time like the strategic asset it is.


Why Most Boundaries Fail (and How to Make Them Stick)

Naming the Boundary Isn’t Enough

We also dig deep into boundaries — and why so many don’t work.

Boundaries fail when:

  • They aren’t clearly defined
  • There’s no emotional reason behind them
  • There are no systems to support them

Boundaries that stick are tied directly to values and reinforced with practical controls — like tech limits, routines, or structural changes.


What Leaders and Organizations Are Missing

Trust, Control, and Burnout Prevention

From Courtney’s years leading culture inside Fortune 50 organizations, she shares a critical insight: companies focus too much on performance skills and not enough on whether people feel in control of their lives.

When employees don’t feel supported at home, they can’t fully engage at work.

Trust — not policing — is the foundation of sustainable performance.


Final Takeaway for Working Moms

You don’t need to do more.
You don’t need to try harder.
You don’t need better time management.

You need alignment.

When your values, priorities, boundaries, and support systems work together, high performance at work stops feeling like survival — and starts feeling sustainable.


How to Connect with Courtney Cecil

You can find Courtney and her work here:

If this episode resonated, share it with a working mom who needs permission to stop doing it all — and start building a life that actually works.


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